To Whom It May Concern,
I woke up this morning inspired to write about a Chinese term Gongjing. Cultivating this state has been probably the single most important find of the century. Gongjing incorporates CALM, trusting, open, loving, humility, respect and reverence for life. It replaces all the defensive patterns that mess with our relationships with others and ourselves. It replaces wanting and brings it back to our natural state of HAVING, BEING and enjoyment of what is versus looking at what is wrong in life. We think that in order to create change that we have to rail and fight against what is, tightening and resisting, fixing and complaining. Remember the little Chinese torture toy? If you pull your fingers apart in resistance you get stuck, but relax and bring your fingers together and the little paper toy releases your fingers and you are free.
Has it become a habit to FEEL our feelings to the point of indulgence? Endlessly express our point of view to the point of the absurd. Doesn’t it just further exhaust our reserves and prolong the suffering? Crying, expressing, wanting to be heard and understood and maybe if we get enough agreement about the current plight in life we will somehow solve it? YIKES! Starting with a state of Gongjing and resting as that natural state solves the very problem we were trying to figure out by running it into the ground with endless expression or endless silent resistance depending on your inclination.
There are a few tricks to cultivating this state of Gongjing. When the first sign of discomfort arises there are ways like tapping the points of the forehead and temples and cheekbones and then the tapping moves to the chest, all across the chest until there is a release and a deep breath that dislodges the glue that attaches the feeling to the cause of that feeling which is a thought gone rogue. You can also roll down first your head and then your neck and roll down the whole spine and then slowly roll up. For a moment relief is available. If you can get calm enough and release the feeling instead of go into it you can identify the thought and see it for what it is, a trigger of a long held misguided pattern that has repeated over and over like a broken record. That thought has to be faced and replaced with Gongjing. Trust has deeper and deeper meanings as the word is explored and implemented. Try this way and see if actually facing instead of defending and explaining is a real way to actually change long held patterns that have kept our lives less than joyful, a state we deserve, our natural state of comfort and fulfillment.
One last thing…..see what can happen if this is adopted instead of endless seeking for making ourselves feel better with approval seeking, need for endless control and striving and striving for safety and security and contentedness. The state of Gongjing is the ultimate experience in contentedness and connectedness. I would love to hear how this is supporting your life and bringing peace to your world. Contact my website at www.powerofcenter.com