How to clear a pattern
The basic way to clear a pattern is to Face, Accept, and Replace.
You may want to make a list of everything you don’t accept the way it is. All the fires up and down the coast, the pandemic, Climate change, our history of suppression. For just a few clearly unacceptable issues. Or the struggles in relationships and arguing with another’s point of view, even all of us parents falling prey to the illusion that force or control ever works.